Transitioning from Child to Caregiver

The relationship between a child and their caregiver, usually a parent, is a special one. You likely remember who cared for you when you were young and continued to provide support as you got older. As your loved one ages, the idea of caring for them as they cared for you might feel a little uncomfortable. However, this arrangement is not uncommon: More than 40 million Americans provide unpaid care for an older adult, most frequently a relative.

Thinking through your transition to caregiver means taking some steps early to make the transition easier — for both you and your loved one. As you plan your caregiver journey, a few simple steps can help start you on the right foot.

Making the switch to caregiver

• Communicating early. Speak with the person you’ll be caring for to understand their wants and needs. Many older adults may resist the idea of having a child care for them, so engage them early. Be sure to talk through things like finances, live-in preferences, and their goals for care.
• Making legal preparations. While the idea of preparing legal documents can feel overwhelming, having them in place can make very difficult decisions down the road a little easier. Things like advance directives, living wills, and healthcare powers of attorney can ensure your loved ones’ wishes are considered.
• Safety-checking the home. Most aging adults prefer to stay in their homes as long as they can. Work with your loved one to make any safety updates, such as removing tripping hazards and installing shower bars, so their home is as safe as possible.

Most importantly, recognize when to make the leap to providing hands-on care. Look for warning signs of cognitive impairment, such as forgetting simple tasks, and struggles with daily activities such as preparing food or driving. Having a plan in place early means that, if the time comes, you’ll be better prepared.

The toll of caregiving

For most people with busy lives, adding the responsibility of caregiving can be difficult. In fact, data suggests that caregiving can take both a physical and emotional toll. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reports that more than half of caregivers report a decline in their own health that, in turn, impacts their ability to provide care for someone else.

When it comes to mental health, caregiver burnout is real and common. The American Psychological Association found that two-thirds of unpaid caregivers supporting older adults had at least one negative behavioral health symptom. Left unchecked, these feelings can escalate into anxiety or depression.

Caring for yourself while for others

Becoming a caregiver is a big life transition. It’s important to check in with yourself as you make this change, and well after. Take care of yourself by:

• Building a community. Being a caregiver can feel isolating. Connect with other caregivers in your area who can share tips, advice, and support throughout your journey.
• Planning for time off. As you start caring for your loved one, build in respite, or time off from caregiving responsibilities. Depending on your situation, work with other family members or friends who can take over duties to give you needed breaks.
• Reaching out to your support network. Talking with family and friends about how you feel as you take over the responsibility of caregiving is important. Having someone to listen—and sometimes weigh in with advice—helps to keep you mentally strong and enables you to give your loved one your best.
• Talking to your doctor. Since caregiving can take a toll on your health, stay ahead of issues by speaking with your physician about the scope of your responsibilities. They may be able to offer mental health resources, or even support respite care for your loved one with a prescription for Medicare PACE services.

Here to support your transition

Making the shift from the one cared for to the one doing the caring is never easy. But the compassionate team at Traditions Health is ready to help. See how our caregiving resources can support you and your loved one.